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Readers Respond: How Has Acne Affected Your Life?

Responses: 34

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Updated March 25, 2013

From the article: Acne and Your Self Esteem

Not all acne scars are ones you can see. Although acne is a skin problem, the effects of acne can extend much deeper. For many, acne negatively influences their self-esteem and self-image.

How has having acne affected you?

Are you less confident and more reserved? Do you spend more time (and money) on makeup, or run from family photo-ops? Or has acne not changed the way you feel about yourself at all? Share your thoughts, feelings, and what you do to boost your self-esteem.

Scars all my life

I had acne when I was a teen, after it went away I had indented scars. I went for laser resurfacing at the age of 53 that made things much worse for me. He burnt my face & left me with dents, fat loss & more scars. I have been homebound for the last 7 yrs because of this. I stopped doing everything & stay inside. Don't want friends or family to see me. I shake when I get up seeing the damage the laser did to me day after day. I heard of recell that's used in Europe but not available here yet. I thought by this time of my life I would be carefree after raising children & not having the responsibilities I once had, that I could finally enjoy my life & wear my hair up. If you go for laser please check the doctor out. There are so many of us who are damaged by this so called miracle machine. Others have been damaged & I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
—Guest sts

Nothing but frustrations and pain :(

I'm 23, and I still have an acne. I have no one to talk to but only myself. I feel like no one will ever love me because of my look. How sad it made my whole life in pain. I was 13 when I got acne, until now. I have deep scars in my face and a lot more pitted hole scars! I feel hopeless, I'm a male and I want to cry! I have already tried a lot of products, nothing works. They only gave me disappointments and additional depression. I hope one day my life will be back to normal, I want to live normally.
—Guest frustated ones

The only thing I need in my life

I feel disgusted when I look at myself. People don't understand. They say to me 'your look doesn't matter, it's who you are on the inside.' And yes, it does matter but they don't have to live with acne marks all over their face. When people talk with you, the first thing they see is your face. And what I feel? I feel like they're looking at my flaws, like they're disgusted for even talking to me. And what I also think - 'Oh poor that girl... I can't even look at her'. I think that because I'm the one who feels that way. Acne are ruining my life. You are trapped in your own body and you can't escape. "Don't put make up, it will only get worse" - no, it won't. When will people understand it's not about make up, it's about hormones and my skin? I already feel insecure, why are you telling me that? I can't tell how much I've cried because of my look. I feel like a monster. And If I had one wish, it would be for my skin to be clear. It's the only thing I need. To be happy again.
—Castiel.

Acne Has Become Me

I have had acne for so long that I cannot remember an extended period of time in my life where I have had clear skin. I am at the point in my life that it is becoming unacceptable to look the way I do. After years and years of going to the dermatologist, I decided that maybe this is the way I am supposed to be. But, that all changes when I have people in my life (including complete strangers) ask me what is wrong with me or recommended products to me. I feel like the world just thinks who I am is completely unacceptable. I just want to live in peace with myself. I have given so many years to acne and I finally want control in my life. I want to wake up in the morning not worrying what my face will look like in the day or if I will get another rude comment from a stranger or someone for once saying I am beautiful. Because inside I feel like a monster and outside I am a monster. And no matter how many times I try to act unaffected by my issue, everyday I have to face it.
—Guest Destiny

I feel ugly and hopeless.

I'm going to be a freshman, and already I'm dreading it. I feel like I'll just be known as "pimple face girl" or whatever. All those inspirational messages I read about loving my body for what it is go out the window when I look in the mirror. All I see are whiteheads. My sister successfully treated her acne with creams, and I can't understand why I'm not getting the same results. Acne has stolen my self-confidence because whenever I see a picture of myself with or without makeup, I automatically see all those little bumps all over my face and nothing else. I am the only person in my group of friends that has acne. I'm frustrated at nothing working to control it. I broke down in my dermatologist's office a few months ago when I was prescribed yet ANOTHER cream/pill combo. I'm terrified that everyone thinks I'm a fake and ugly because of all the makeup I wear to hide it. I just want my acne to go away so I can get my self-confidence and life back. Is that really too much to ask? :(
—Guest M

Ruined my life

Acne has kind of ruined my life in many ways. Now I am left out with acne scars and cant figure my way out of it.
—Guest hitanshu

No One Understands

Hi. I'm 38 years old and struggled with BAD acne since the 7th grade. It would get so bad that there were days that I wouldn't go to school because I didn't want to be looked at. My cousins would call me names and make fun of me and it was just very hurtful. It wasn't until after I was about 20 years old that the pimples went away but left me with HORRIBLE deep scarring! As if pimples weren't bad enough! This has consumed me and hurts every single day! I hate looking at myself in the mirror and at people for that matter. I feel like they are staring at my scarring and thinking.."omg...look at her skin!" My self esteem is really bad and even though I have support from my family... it still doesn't take away the pain of what it is like to be like this every single day. Oh and did I mention that on top of this I have oily skin? Well, yes I do!! Any tips on how to try to improve this??
—Guest So Emotional

It's worse when it's sometimes good

I'm also 34 and have struggled with hormonal acne since puberty. I've had clear periods, even being flattered for my pretty skin and modeling semi-professionally. Having trained as an esthetician in my 20's I know what products, nutrition, and antibiotics/hormonal prescriptions to request. After several bad relationships and career false starts, 90% due to acne flareups and feeling suddenly socially crippled until I fixed again, and a particularly bad year of major life crises happening in rapid succession, I find myself sagging and wrinkled having lost facial volume with age and from crying and afraid of the world (and the sun, and cosmetics, from my education) all my old scars and wide pores re-emerging , plus new hormonal breakouts/weight gain-loss from trying antidepressants and tranquilizers. I've abandoned dating, as I can only be seen/photograph myself on good days. Beauty gone, no career or social life, emotionally broken.
—Guest Hi Guest Sad

Honest, it gets better

It pains me to see these young people feeling so badly. Please know that as you age, the severity of the scarring decreases; mine has, and it did rule my life for years. I was one of 6 girls in my family and I am the only one who has scarring over 70% of my face. Try whatever helps you and PLEASE know that as you get older, it will soften, and so will the sadness. I felt awful about myself, too; felt I looked abnormal, unloveable, etc. and it just isn't true! As I tell myself now (with age behind me), It is what it is! Please don't give up on yourself because of it. You're a worthwhile person, even if you don't feel that way today. I have been where you are - all of you, and I can tell you, you are NOT your skin...You are so much more.
—Guest Suzeeee

My feelings too!

I also had a bad scars on my face and tried everything, everything (homemade masks, chemicals, all things). I feel bad and no one can imagine how it is painful for me. I feel ugly and all my friends are better and beautiful. And also I cannot tell any one about my feeling coz no body will know how it means. Sometimes I cry at night. I also cannot find words to explain how I feel but you speak well about that, finally we should inspire our selves and stay strong and optimistic and hope that there will be a cure for that.
—Guest mona

Acne has ruined my life

I had acne since the 6th grade. My mom decided to give me a remedy that only worsened my acne. She saw how much it bothered me and decided to take me to a dermatologist so I started taking a drug to stop acne, which already was dominating my face. The drug began to show results and I was excited, but I did not know what was coming: the scars. I think this is the worst part because it will stay with you forever. I'm doing some treatments to solve this but I'm not seeing good results and I'm worried because it spends too much money and I'm leaving my parents in cramped conditions. Besides I hate myself so much for these scars, I can not leave the house because I fear what people will think of me. I pretend I don't care but I do. I avoid everything possible to look myself in the mirror because whenever that happens I feel bad. The even worse is that I get compared myself to the other girls, I never feel confident enough to be happy again, that's so unfair.
—Guest Gabby

EVERYONE READ

Everyone read this pleasee!!!! I used to have terrible cystic acne! I started getting acne around 5th grade. It got worse and worse as the years went on. It wasnt regular acne. I had these huge cyst like things all over my face. It was so painful. It hurt to smile or laugh or eat or move my face, depending where the pimples were. I never went a day without acne. I couldnt leave the house without a face caked with makeup. I was seld concious and felt so ugly. No matter what i tried, nothing worked. Nothing. It was in my genetics. My mom suffers from the same problem i did. I had no self confidence and depression. I just wanted normal skin like everyone else. When i was 18 i heard of accutane. Listen to me, you might of heard accutane horror stories or the negative side effects, but TRUST ME, It is 100% worth it. You take pills for 4-6 months that give you dry lips and skin and you have to get blood work once a month... But after thats all over...You have perfectly CLEAR skin.
—Guest Sara

I wish I looked normal

I've had acne since I was 12. It didn't start out bad maybe a few pimples here or there. Only when I turned 15 has it been a daily thing. I'm 24 years old and acne is daily and controls my life. I stopped going to college, hanging out with friends, even talking to my family. Because all people notice is my face and the million scars/pimples. I can't go a day without my mom making a comment about it. Like "gee maybe you should try this, not doing that, try this, don't wear makeup...." It kills me. Can't she understand it doesn't matter what I do or not do. I will continue to look like this big fat freak. Pizza face. I mean I cry myself to sleep, barley look in the mirror unless I'm covering up with a ton of makeup. I hate myself, and sometimes wish I wasn't born. What did I do to deserve looking this way forever? I don't even talk to boys and my sister had the nerve to tell me look for someone with low standards.
—Guest Dylan

Lost

I thought I was over acne. I started getting it in high school (it was never as bad as I thought it was then, I realize that now) so I started using proactive which made everything better except for the occasional pimple or two I got around that time of the month. I kept using proactive for the duration of school and a year after and was still fine. Things turned sour when I moved in with my twin sister (who has near flawless skin, always makes me jealous now) she told me proactive was a waste of money and I probably didn't even need it anymore. Well guess what? As soon as I stopped proactive my acne came back and me like an idiot picked at it making it horrible it was the worst my skin had ever looked. So after trying cheaper products which never worked I went back to good ol proactive and my acne cleared again I started feelin good again. I used proactive for another 3 yrs but then all of a sudden bam it stopped working n I started picking again n made it horrible. Luckily I stopped.
—Guest Scar(r)ed

It has ruined me

In fifth grade is when I started breaking out bad. I got Tons of little bumps everywhere but my parents said to wash with soap. In sixth grade I had moderately severe acne and it left so many scars. Now I'm in seventh and it finnaly cleared up thanks to washing my far with Netrougena pink grapefruit and at night putting on peres gel 10. I also have had extreamly senstive skin so I moisturize every morning with eucerin (sold at Walmart for all). I was left with horrible acne scars which are taking forever to get away. I started using covergirl clean senstive skin for foundation and almay blemish healer conceler. But no matter what they sometimes show through. I am the only girl in my grade with acne so it has affected me big but sometimes I break and it feels good to cry. I just bought a stuffed animal and talk to it (ik I'm crazy) about my problems and it helps. Sometimes I write notes to myself since I can't keep up with journals. I though no one would like me but there are.
—Guest Brooke
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